Today’s the last day in our preparation series.
We’ve talked to our spouse, and talked to our kids. Today we need to talk to our parent. The one who’ll actually be moving in with us.
So what should you talk about?
A lot!
Expectations.
Needs.
Desires.
Let’s break it down a little more.
Expectations
If you’re imagining Grandpa (or Grandma) doting over your little ones and baby sitting on a whim, you might be in for a surprise when you find out that’s not what your parent was expecting.
Talking about these things is crucial.
Find out what your parent is comfortable with. What your parent expects, and share what you expect.
Talk about meals. Who will be responsible for which meal? How about those dishes?
Talk, talk, talk.
Even if you don’t think it’ll be a problem, it’s important to talk about it.
Now is also the time to lay some ground rules.
If your kids don’t eat sugar, let your parent know, so they don’t bring home a big bag of candy and get upset when you don’t let your kids partake.
Your family is unique. What makes you unique? Those are probably good things to talk about.
Needs
Honestly discuss the health of your parent. You should know what meds will be in the house, and what they do. Even if your parent doesn’t need a caretaker yet, it’s important to know in case an emergency comes up.
Talk about how much help your parent will need. What are you able to provide?
Yes–this will probably change, but start talking now to lay an honest foundation to build your multi-generational house on.
Desires
What are things you’d like to see happen?
What are things your parent would like to see happen?
Talk about your desires.
See what you can make happen. Even if you can’t meet the desires of both parties, just spending time getting everything out in the open promotes communication. Promotes a spirit of working together.
What else needs talked about with your parent?
