Yesterday we talked about the pros of a three generation house, so tonight’s post covers the challenges of multi-generational living.
It’s shorter, because honestly there aren’t as many downfalls as I thought there were going to be.
Here are three that come to mind.
Privacy
It’s a bit weird to know that Dad is here. I feel like I have an audience when we’re singing, goofing off, disciplining, or doing numerous other activities. I KNOW that Dad’s not always watching/listening, but the thought is still there, in the back of my mind…
Feeling the Need to Keep It Down
This one sort of goes along with number one, but it’s different enough that I’ll list it separately.
I feel bad having the little ones cry it out at night, even though I know that’s what is needed for sleep training. I’m sure Dad would understand, but just the idea of knowing he also won’t get a good night’s sleep has been a challenge for me.
I also feel bad when Owen beats the door at night, or Simon wakes up crying. Sleep is important, and while I’m losing some with the kids, I don’t want other people to be to.
It’s not just at night. In the morning when I know Dad is sleeping (because in our crazy house he probably didn’t get much sleep the night before even if I tried to keep the awake kids quiet…) I feel the need to keep it down. I often find myself reminding the kids to be quiet.
It may just be because I’m naturally more of a people pleaser, but it’s something I’m struggling with.
Different Food
I still can’t get used to seeing margarine in my fridge! Or cold cereal on top of the fridge.
The kids see these things, and they want to eat them to. It’s hard to explain why Grandpa eats them when it’s something I don’t want the kids to eat.
I’ve given in on the cereal on occasion, but not the margarine.
And coffee–the smell makes me gag. I despise the smell of coffee (and the taste), yet I have a coffee pot on the counter now that gets daily use. Definitely an adjustment!
What other challenges can you think of to having a parent live with you?
